Jay and I were talking about how men and women differ in their general attitude toward sex. We both agree that it’s pleasurable, healthy and independent of love, although enriched by it. The difference, we discussed, is how the genders view sex in relation to procreation. Men, in general, do not think about making a baby when they are having sex. They want this thought as far away from their minds when they are getting it on. In fact, couples who put so much emphasis on “Quick, let’s do it now, I’m ovulating!” may more than likely be unsuccessful because of the undue pressure. Men like it dirty, not obligatory.
On the other hand, making babies is so tied into women’s sexuality. We are horniest when we are ovulating. Conception and contraception is always on a woman’s mind when approaching sexual contact with a man. For the longest time, I only would do oral sex because I was terrified of getting pregnant. When I finally had intercourse, I remember sizing men up based on their physical and mental attributes, the amateur geneticist that I am… just in case of the small possibility that my birth control methods failed me.
It seems that no matter how complicated the rituals are that we create around sex, it ultimately brings us back to our most basic selves.
Hi. I was wondering… How can I find a woman who is willing to let me suck on her nipples and drink her breast milk? I live in London UK.
Thanks.
Hello, Des. I’m not an expert in meeting women, but my off the cuff answer would be to meet a woman you like, fall in love, have a baby together, then make yourself useful when her breasts get clogged with milk. If you want to shortcut through the above, you could find a woman who just had a baby but doesn’t have a man to help out. I’m sure there are single moms out there who would appreciate having a man around. For the short shortcut, check out “erotic lactation” on the internet, and you may find special interest groups in your locale. Thanks for writing.