Hope I have someone who is my true love as well as being so sexually engaging. I do think it’s a beautiful thing to have the trust and comfort to explore all of that with your partner. I’m admittedly rather jealous of it and wonder how that happens. The greatest thing of all is you don’t take it for granted… you cherish it.
I’m no expert on relationships. But here’s my take on how true love and true lust happen: Never settle. I don’t mean staying in perpetual search for “the one.” Some people keep searching and never notice the person right there. What I mean is that one must recognize a potential “true lover.” That stuff doesn’t just happen overnight.
You start with whether you like how s/he smells. Chemistry. Then, be totally and absolutely honest with your desires. You could scare her off. That’s the risk you’ll have to take. Never settle for someone you’re only sharing part of yourself with. Scare her off. Encourage her to do the same. If she leaves, then keep searching. If she stays, then you’ve got your true love. Woo her, feed her desires, love her forever.
you are so right, i know i feel that way
but sometimes a mans brain and a womans brain can interfere an im learning to not let that happen.
i truly love havong a strong chemistry with someone.
The Chinese have a saying for this kind of thing (paraphrased):
If you can’t eat together and can’t sleep together, you can never enjoy one another in true happiness. One cannot live properly without sleep, food, and love.
this idea of never settling is very important. Some may see it as selfish, but in fact I think it is the opposite…for if you don’t settle (on parts of yourself that are key and innate) you are truly being yourself.
If you are truly being yourself, your partner is getting to know and be close to the real you. And if you cannot be your true self, how can you be truly intimate with a partner. Don’t settle — on the big/important stuff. Thanks, May.