Here is an email I received asking about sex during pregnancy. Do leave a comment if you have something to add to my advice, or if you want to ask a follow up question.

E wrote:

My wife is 14 weeks preggo now and our sex life has taken a massive faceplant over the last 5 weeks or so. We used to have sex a minimum twice a day on weekdays and 3-4 on weekends, but now I’m lucky if we can get intimate once or twice a week.

The underlying problem is not mental or emotional (she still has a strong desire), but rather physical…she gets bad acid reflux and indigestion on a near-constant basis, and it’s brought her sex drive down with every week. The vaginal sex has also been a bit uncomfortable as well…she still gets nice and wet but the vaginal canal feels awkward when I’m inside (for a lack of better words) and it doesn’t feel that good for either of us. We’ve been doing more anal (yay!) as a result, but since we only have sex once or twice a week it’s affected my ability to hold it in and I end up ejaculating in less than 5 minutes. It hasn’t been all that satisfying these last several weeks.

She doesn’t feel unattractive and for the most part she’s in a good mood, and I give her unconditional love and support and I haven’t missed an ultrasound or doctor’s appointment, and I’ve been reading several large pregnancy books to help us stay informed on everything. . . I haven’t spoken to her about how I feel about the lack of sex because I don’t want to appear selfish and I don’t want to upset her or make her feel like it’s her fault, because it’s clearly not at all and I don’t blame her.

The sudden massive backtrack in sex has really taken me for a spin, though… I’ve been jacking off a storm that I haven’t done since I was in high school, but it’s only a band-aid solution and I really miss our intimacy. I’m trying not to let it show but it’s driving me crazy inside.

Any advice or insight that you or Jay could share?

I’m trying to remember how often Jay and I had sex when I was pregnant, and I think it’s about the same as yours. 2 to 3 times a week sounds like how it was for us too, which like you, was a lot less than before we were pregnant. Believe me, once the baby comes out, it will be even less than that.

I totally understand. My first trimester I slept a lot, my second trimester it was acid reflux and indigestion, my third trimester it was sciatica. Despite all that, I really craved intimacy and wanted to spend time with Jay.

Some more ideas beyond vaginal and anal sex: oral sex and mutual masturbation. I would masturbate his cock between my breasts, which was novelty for me since I was sporting Mom boobs. Jay played with my vagina a lot, stretched it out with his fingers and I think it prepared me for childbirth.

Let me know how it goes.

Take care, both of you! Get lots of sleep and sex.

Back then I had an irregular cycle. It was common for me to have cycles as long as 60 days, and since I was not yet sexually active, it wasn’t a big deal if my period ran late.

Another part of this exercise was recording how our vaginas felt. We marked the calendar Fertile if we were wet, Infertile if we had a tacky discharge, and Dry if we were, well, dry.

This exercise may very well be the beginning of my sexual exploration, though at that time I remember thinking of it as tedious and never took it seriously enough to document everyday. In fact, I remember making it all up on the day we turned those monthly calendar sheets in.

As soon as I started being sexually active, I got on the pill, and didn’t have to think much of counting the days in my cycles. Almost immediately after quitting the pill, I got pregnant, became a mom and didn’t have my period for eight months after birth.

Since I got my period again, it is like clockwork. I have not gone back to taking birth control pills. I have begun counting out my monthly cycles to determine when I’m fertile, when I’m expecting my period, and when I have sex.

The nuns actually taught me something about sex!

There is an iPhone app that Fertility Friend released to help make this easier. I use it faithfully. It’s called the Menstrual Calendar. You first set it up with your cycle length and the first day of your most recent period. The app marks each calendar day and predicts fertile days and when the next period begins. Make sure you set Auto Stats to OFF so you can make adjustments if you are early or late a day or so.

The app also lets me enter information about my period – None, Spotting, Light, Normal or Heavy; and about whether or not I had intercourse – Protected or Unprotected.

The only function missing is a text field to enter who the sex was with, for women who have multiple partners, in case knock-on-wood she gets pregnant and is wondering who the father may be. This makes keeping a diary of all the dirty details indispensable.

Her friend, my acquaintance, introduced us. She just turned 18, left home, wanted to do porn in exhange for some cash. She had a fresh face and a voluptuous body, but a lack of any real interest in anything. She was young, a blank canvas.

We took some photos in the garden. The sun loved her skin. Despite the seemingly bored demeanor, her eyes came alive when captured in the stillness of a photograph. Suddenly, in two dimensions, she became interesting.

“Have you ever seen any porn?” I asked.

She nodded. “I have three older brothers.” Click. Jay snapped a photo of her grinning.

Her answer made me smile. “I see… Do you masturbate?”

“I prefer having it done for me,” she answered in a quiet voice. Click. Now a more pensive look.

“So you’ve had sex before?”

“Yes.” Click, click, click.

“With a man?”

She nodded. Jay went in for a different angle. Click.

“Have you ever been with a woman?”

She nodded again. I made a mental note to stop asking yes/no questions.

“What’s your fantasy?”

“Being in a threesome with a man and a woman,” she ventured, looking me straight in the eyes.

I buckled. She had me right in the palm of her hand. Jay had forgotten about his camera.

I’ve been anxiously waiting for this, my sweeties. Part 2 of Skred’s red hot bedtime story…

May lay on the bed, her body pulsing with the throbbing in her pussy while Skred got some ice water and a bottle of something from the bathroom.

The walked into the house and May wondered what would happen next. Skred had a surprise for her and it would blow her mind.

May has met some interesting people on her website. Here’s a story about the day she met Skred.

May traveled back to the Bay Area for some business. She also wanted to meet Skred in person. She was interested in, what else, sex – especially fucking a man with a pierced dick. Skred wears a huge ring in his dick, a Prince Albert piercing and May gasped when she saw a picture of it.

After her business meeting, May called Skred and told him where she was. A nice hotel with a big, soft bed, just the thing for her when she works on her back. She would not spend much time there. Skred had other plans.

May took her panties off. Skred would have pulled them off anyway and she had spent time in the airplane bathroom masturbating and they were soaked. She washed her pussy and ass so she would taste good when Skred kissed her after eating her.

Skred arrived at May’s door and she was surprised at how conservative he appeared dressed in blue jeans, cowboy boots and a leather jacket. They kissed with the electricity that long separated lovers have. “Are you sure you want this?” he asked. “Once we start, you’re mine until I finish.” May could barely say “Yes!”

Skred pushed May against the wall and kissed her mouth, unbuttoned her shirt and found no bra, nipples hardened with lust. May unzipped his pants and pushed them down, fondling the fuckstick she had been lusting after for months. She gasped and shuddered when she felt the ring, an orgasm shaking her body.

May went to her knees and looked at Skred’s cock, swollen and red, bouncing to his pulse, cum leaking from around the curved barbell that was threaded through the hole. He let her taste it, take it in her mouth and face fuck him. Then he grabbed a handful of thick, black hair and shoved his cock into her mouth. Gagging sounds came from deep within as Skred tried to stuff his dick down her throat. Spit dripped down her chin and she wriggled trying to back away. She was pinned against the wall and moaned.

Skred backed off and looked at the Super Spy Chick, spit and cum dripping down her chin, lust and anticipation in her black eyes and on her face. Skred pushed her to the floor, spread her legs and looked at her pussy, fingered her as she arched her back and pushed his dick into her pussy. Deeper and deeper. May squirmed and moaned, squeezed her pussy, slinging it hard as she felt the steel ring being shoved into her. Skred enjoyed May’s hot, tight wetness, kissing her mouth and sucking her nipples, teasing the orgasms from her.

May lost control thrusting against Skred as the ring slid up and down at the end of his cock which was stretching her out. She shook as she came, eyes fluttering, moans and curses coming from her mouth. Skred got up on his knees, flipped her easily and mounted her from behind. He pounded her pussy, listening to her moan and talk dirty, grabbed her hair and pulled her to a sitting position in his lap, bone hard dick rubbing against the front wall of her pussy. He squeezed her tits, she put her hands on his and squeezed, grinding her pussy and taking his dick as deep as she could, feeling his prick against her cervix. Skred reached town and rubbed her belly and felt his cock sliding up and down May’s pussy, the steel ring marking the depth of penetration.

He pushed her over and she heard the snap of gloves, felt fingers sliding into her, the slippery feel of lubricant being applied. Skred skinned on a condom, placed his prick in her anus and grabbed her hips. May pushed out as Skred reamed her, sliding his prick up her ass until it was all the way in. He watched as her cinnamon ring stretched and puckered and her ass shook as May came. Lust finally took control and Skred pushed her to the floor and started fucking her ass with long strokes, taking May’s ass and pumping sperm into her with hard ramming thrusts.

Skred lay on May, feeling her heave great breaths from the pounding he had given her. His cocked eased out of her back door until the ring caught on her ass sphincter. A gentle pull and he was out. May flinched. He rolled onto his side and May rolled with him, curled into a ball and relaxed.

Skred got up and went to the bathroom to strip. Ran some water the clean himself and got a washcloth and towel for May. He went out and picked her up, carried her to the bed gave her the cloth and towel.

‘This is a good start.’ thought May. Little did she know….

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I love ebay. I bought a bunch of clothes from China, including this black and white dress the merchant called an office dress. I beg to differ, however. I think it’s more of a cosplay outfit. It’s slightly gothic lolita. It will work as a maid uniform if I added a white apron, a hat and a feather duster to the ensemble. What else do you think this dress could be?

My Number One Cosplay Fantasy

Harry Potter is older now, and he looks a lot like Jay.

Our eyes connect as he points his wand toward me and utters spells that send flutters of orgasms from the center of my clitoris to the tips of my toes. He has yet to touch me and I am already in a puddle of juice. He swirls his wand in a circle, levitating me right off my rocking chair, turning me around, upside down, my dress falling right off my torso. I hold onto my garment, squealing in delight.

He lifts my pussy to his mouth like a goblet of wine. I am on fire. I shake my hair, just a few inches off the floor. I am held in his thrall, in total trust of his power.

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