Outside the rain beat a percussive song upon the roof, windows, and gutters of our farmhouse. It filled my head with melodies and I hummed along. I am in love with life and nature. How can I fall deeper in love with life?
I ran out naked and bathed in the rain. Ligo sa ulan.
This is my birthday nude this year. Completely nude. No make-up, no filter, no hair dye. Just flowers and leaves surrounding my head, grass and mud squished underneath my feet, and rain rain rain on my skin and hair.
Happy Year of the Water Rabbit! Aligned with the Moon Goddess, Rabbit pounds the elixir of immortality with a mortar and pestle, symbolizing hope, peace, and longevity.
If you donāt already know which of the 12 zodiac animals you belong to, check the wheel below for the animal that corresponds to your birth year. If you were born on the month of January, it might get a little tricky for you. Since the Chinese go by the Lunar Calendar, some or all of January goes under the previous yearās sign. Here is a Chinese Animal Zodiac Sign Calculator to find out exactly what your sign is.
Do you know which animal zodiac sign you are? Then here are my Love & Sex Fortunes š„ for your amusement.
Dear Rats, I am sorry to say that luck in love and relationships will elude you in the Year of the Water Rabbit. Single Rats keep finding undesirable qualities in the people they date. Focus on self-love and decisiveness, whether you are single or partnered. If you are in a relationship, be attentive to your lover’s needs and your own. Explore your sexuality and sharpen your communication skills to make your fantasies come true.
Most compatible signs: Ox is that strong sexy complement to your personality. Dragon and you are a power couple. Monkey makes you so giddy happy.
Least compatible: Donāt hitch your wagon on Horse. Nothing you do will ever be good enough. Goat just wants your money. Rabbit canāt help but do the opposite of what you want. Beware!
Ox, you are doing so well this year. Hard work in your career is paying off and people are starting to pay attention. Single oxen, when you meet someone who meets your high standards, express yourself quickly and confidently before someone else makes their move. Nurture your love relationships, new and old. Don’t be stubborn over minor issues. Think of the big picture. Find a way to compromise in bed.
Most compatible signs: Rat balances your rigid personality. Snake is romantic and supportive of your work. Rooster will love you with loyalty.
Least compatible: You will clash with Goat. Horse has too much of a free spirit to take you seriously. You have nothing in common with Dog. Donāt waste your time.
Tigers, make the most of your popularity this year by expressing your affection for those you are attracted to. Allow yourself to be vulnerable instead of your usual tactic of playing it cool. This also applies to partnered Tigers. Take a chance on letting your partner in on your secret desires. This year your charm can sway your partner to help make your fantasies a reality.
Most compatible signs: Pig may be your opposite but you can really be yourselves with each other. Horse is irresistible to you. Dog brings out your gentle side.
Least compatible: Monkey and you will always argue. A relationship with Snake will be full of suspicions and coldness. Stay away.
Rabbits exude a quiet confidence and strength. Despite being attractive socializers, you tend to be secretive and have your mind on the moon. You need lovers who will surprise you every so often to spice things up. Single rabbits, start a new relationship to keep you grounded in this turbulent year. If you are in a relationship, make sure you clarify any murky friendships to avoid jealousy from your partner.
Most compatible: Dog will be happy to live a peaceful life with you. Pig and you have a lot in common. Goat needs you and you love taking care of that horny Goat.
Least compatible: Rooster and you will argue about the littlest things. Dragon and you may seem like you have a lot in common but alas, you two clash. Rat is tricky, too, because it will take time before differences between you will appear and by then, it will be impossible to agree on anything.
Dragons, both single and partnered, focus on your listening and empathy skills. Try to see things from your love’s point of view. Instead of blasting fire at your partner, extinguish your anger and speak to your lover with respect, tact, and care. Avoid dwelling on the past. Stay in the present moment and let that fire inside you propel you toward a better future.
Most compatible: Rooster worships you and will do anything for you. Monkey and you are a creative explosion together, just watch out for Monkeyās tricks. Ratās humor and reliability attracts your stubborn nature.
Least compatible: You and Dog canāt understand or trust each other. Rabbit and you have similarities, but you can only tolerate each other to a certain point. You also clash with other Dragons. There can only be one!
Snake: 1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001, 2013
Single Snakes, the Year of the Water Rabbit is a good time to master your temperament. Once you do this, you will attract the kind of lover you want in life. Partnered Snakes, don’t exhaust yourself arguing over insignificant matters. Anger is a venom that will poison you. Breathe… if it does not matter, let it go. Use that sexy tongue for whispering sweet nothings and for pleasuring your lover.
Most compatible: Monkey and you have similarities. You admire Roosterās good taste and ability to avoid getting eaten up by you. Ox grounds you and is a reliable anchor.
Least compatible: Tiger is too suspicious and cold. Pig will tolerate you, but canāt trust you. I mean, youāre a Snake! And admittedly, Pig is good eatinā!
Horse: 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002, 2014
Horses, the Year of the Water Rabbit will be smooth for you. Single Horses will be lucky in finding love. If you are partnered, look to the future with your lover. You have found your ride-or-die. You can trust and let yourself be reined in. Would you consider being tied up in erotic bondage? Perhaps you are ready to make those plans for marriage, children, or retirement together.
Most compatible: Goatās tenderness will make you feel content. Tiger will try hard to win you. Dog will be your loyal partner.
Least compatible: Rat will clash with you. Save yourselves the pain. Ox will be difficult to communicate with. Other Horses are great to work with but too similar to be compatible in love.
Goat: 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003, 2015
Goats, watch out for a disastrous romance in the Year of the Water Rabbit. Play the field if you are single. Partnered Goats should also play it safe. Things may not be optimum, but avoid tipping the scale for the worse. Be grateful for what you have, you horny beast.
Most compatible: Horse makes up for your shortcomings, and vice versa. Rabbit is dependable. Pig is warm and gentle.
Least compatible: Ox and you can be so stubborn and uncompromising. Rat and you easily misunderstand each other. Dog and you have very few things in common.
Monkeys, you are at the top of your game this year. People notice your swagger and want to bask in your shine. Enjoy a spicier sex life whether you’re partnered or swinging around. Be careful of letting relationship issues affect your career performance. Protect your good time by keeping work and love life in balance.
Most compatible: Snake is either your hottest lover or your coldest foe. Rat cheers you up like no other. Dragon inspires you.
Least compatible: Tiger will fight you constantly. Pig doesnāt have the same interests and life goals as you.
Roosters, protect your nest from troubles outside the home. You will encounter many struggles at work and in the world at large, but try not to let it leak into your conversations with lovers and potential lovers. Make your sexual and romantic encounters be an oasis from the harsh world outside.
Most compatible: Dragonās accomplishments make you proud and you love to boost from behind. Snake gets you, your life and dreams. Ox is honest and a steady partner.
Least compatible: Rabbit has contrasting opinions that clash with yours. Dog and you can tolerate each other but itās always tense. Who wants to live with all that tension? Other Roosters fight with you often and canāt compromise. Donāt get caught in a constant cockfight.
Dogs, you are such a friendly soul. If you are single, you will have plenty of friends who have the potential to develop into more intimate relationships. Single and partnered Dogs, be clear in your communication and listen well to avoid misunderstandings. Savor the love in store for your on this Year of the Water Rabbit.
Most compatible: Rabbit is kind and supportive. Tiger is reassuring and needs your loyalty. Horse understands and respects you.
Least compatible: Dragon and you are distrustful of one another. You will have intense arguments with each other. Ox and you have dissimilar interests. Goat and you tolerate each other, but thatās it.
Pigs, this is your moment to shine. Celebrate every chance you can. Single Pigs take the initiative when you meet someone you like. Partnered Pigs will fall even more deeply in love with your lovers. Cherish your lover. Have a fantastic year!
Most compatible: Tiger is brave and makes you feel secure. Rabbit wants to snuggle up and bask in your intelligence. You have a lot of common interests with Goat.
Least compatible: Snake will eat you alive. A relationship with Monkey will be full of tension.
Was my prediction for your zodiac sign helpful? Let me know in the comments what your sign is and what your love & sex game plan is going to be on this Year of the Water Rabbit. Good luck to you!
āMake love to me right now, dear Lilith. Let nothing, not distance or heavenās wrath, come between us.ā
Come along with Lilith through the opulence of Inanna’s temple to the secrets of Noah’s ark, fucking demons and mortals along the way. Here is an excerpt from the chapter Lilith’s Mirror.
“A wondrous pastiche of biblical ‘magical realism’ akin to The Satanic Verses, albeit funnier and far more erotic in tone and prose than Rushdie’s works. It also has a sweet and endearing side to some of its characters, and with a plot that dashes in a bit of horror near the end for good measure.” – āļøāļøāļøāļøāļø from Son of Odin
I had a rainy birthday, so Jay suggested that we recreate our very first photo shoot, Rainy Day Girl. He let me borrow his 100+ year old coat tails, handed me a frog umbrella, and followed me around our backyard with a camera. Tracing our steps back to the first time we played with a camera together was as refreshing as the misty autumn air. It reminded us both of that electric excitement we felt when we first started dating and collaborating.
It’s been over 25 years since Rainy Day Girl. We’ve accumulated deeply scarring emotional baggage as well as amazing memories of profound connection. I am grateful for all of it. I open myself up for more. At some point during our rainy day frolic in the backyard I got down on a bed of wet autumn leaves on the ground. Sometimes the only way to create beauty is to get dirty.
I’ve had a relaxing summer, spending time outdoors and swimming in a nearby lake in between finally finishing writing Lilith: Beyond the Deluge.
Itās been several years in the making and Iāve had the most difficult time writing it. It is inspired by ancient Mesopotamian lore, like the first two books in the Lilith series. I drew inspiration from the flood accounts in the book of Genesis, the epic of Gilgamesh, and the Puranas, as well as the book of Inanna. Then I took (a lot) more creative license to fill in what seems like a simple childrenās bedtime story.
It is a supernatural and occult fantasy, a genre I love to read. I took the pressure off myself to make erotica. I let the characters speak through me and only wrote sex scenes when the story called for it. The result was incredibly organic, connected, and hot sex scenes, as you can expect from a slut like me who writes from experience. I poured a lot of my life, not just sex, into the stories that make up Lilith: Beyond the Deluge. It is the most personal volume in the Lilith series. I canāt wait to share it with you.
Today I begin recording and producing the audiobook. Stayed tuned for a Scorpio season release.
Love, Lust, and Liberty,
P.S. A little social round up:
Earlier in the summer I did a little survey on gas prices around the world and learned that Singapore pays for it the most!
When navigating good vs. evil, bring a popsicle to keep you hydrated.
Also ICYMI I went on an early morning ride in a hot air balloon. It was exhilarating! An unforgettable experience that made me fantasize about a hot air balloon gang bang 1500 feet above the ground.
I got my IUD removed. šā”ļø It was a quick process and done before I knew it. Since it had been a year since my last period I figured that my ovulating days are probably over.
Doc said I have a nice pink cervix, healthy inner muscles, from getting regularly fucked and cum into. I still have strong orgasms that suck up every last drop of semen I get.
Which apparently is the best way to get natural hormone therapy. Let’s break it down:
Average volume of semen per ejaculation: 1.5 to 5 mL
Average amount of estrogen per 5 mL ejaculation: 2-3 mg
Average amount of progesterone per 5 mL ejaculation: 50-70 mg
Compared to Hormone Replacement Therapy meds, that’s a lot more bang for my buck and a hell of a lot more fun.
So let’s keep getting it, my Golden Girls! Let your body bloom well into those senior years. Keep nurturing your sexual relationships. Stay healthy and stay sexy.
I had an amazing time with journalist Ana P. Santos on her podcast titled Middle Me: Stories about Sex and Pleasure After 40. We talked about this rollercoaster ride I’m on from the moment I discovered my sexuality through decades of exploration in sex and relationships as a polyamorous pornographer.
Of course we talk about sex. We talk about porn. We talk about relationships. But also, we talk about family. And we talk about aging and body image. Have a listen.
Our interview is spread out over two episodes:
I also love that one of my longtime MAYCAM members, who happens to be a physician, reacted to this quote from the podcast:
“Physiologically, the reason you’re still ‘wet’ and not having issues with dryness nor menopausal symptoms is actually due to the ‘use it or lose it’ scenario. Believe it or not, i) the more skin-to-skin intercourse you have while going through menopause causes hypertrophy and healing to prevent vaginal wall atrophy (meaning if you were less sexually active, your vagina would start to atrophy); ii) high semen exposure inside the vagina stimulates high concentrations of estrogen, progesterone, and other important hormones to women. The vaginal wall and uterus absorbs estrogen 10x more effectively than if estrogen is given orally or even intravenously. Your ongoing sexual activity with vaginal creampies was doing the equivalent of prometrium (hormone replacement therapy directly to the vagina).”
So let’s get it, my Golden Girls! We owe it to ourselves and our lovers to let our sexual experience and emotional maturity bloom well into our senior years. We are not too old to have sex. It is natural and healthy to have mind blowing sex after menopause.
Cheers! š·
P.S. I made you a playlist for tonight. Gaze at the total lunar eclipse super flower moon while listening to these moon tunes on Spotify. šø
